Bouncing Back from Setbacks: Becoming the Master of Your Destiny at All Costs
There is nothing worse than feeling like a failure. Some people simply cannot stomach the thought of being unable to live up to their own expectations or the expectations of others. One setback can sometimes send a sensitive person reeling for days, even years, and sink them into a deep depression. Here are some awesome videos about bouncing back from setbacks and becoming the master of your destiny no matter what the costs.
However, there is nothing more defeating than allowing yourself to stay stuck in the mindset of believing that a plan didn’t work out because you or your planning process was inherently flawed. When we circle the blame onto ourselves again and again, it can take us years to recover from the abuse we are heaping onto our psyche. You are not worthless because a plan you attempted to put into action hasn’t succeeded yet. You are courageous for putting in the effort at all.
Just because something didn’t work out taking one course of action, that doesn’t mean that you are doomed to fail eternally.
It simply means that it is time to regroup and fall back on plan B. Or C. Or D. You could go through as many variations of your plan as many times as you need to. The important thing is that you never give up. You could go through the entire alphabet again and again until you figure out what works to make your dream a reality. If it means enough to you, then don’t stop believing that success is possible.
This can be easier said than done. Bouncing back after a setback can seem impossible at first, but the first thing you need to do is to remember to breathe. If you panic, nothing good will come of it. Your best course of action is to approach the situation with a cool and level head, and although that may be hard to do at first, you are more than capable of it!
Next, give yourself a little bit of time to regroup and process what has happened. Why did your plan fail? What was it that got in the way? How could those issues have been avoided? What could you do better in the future when making a more foolproof plan B?
Finally, take some time to consider just what you have learned from the process of failing. Failure is not permanent. It is simply a stage that we go through during the evolution of a plan or an idea. Failure means that there are more complications than we anticipated, and we are learning more and more with every little mistake that we make.
By the time we succeed, we are so steeled against setbacks that the next goal we attempt to accomplish may seem to come much easier to us, because the setbacks are not so devastating.
We can turn our setbacks into gems of truth and a will of steel, or we can let it defeat us. But nobody has ever mastered their destiny by giving up. To become a great achiever, you keep going until you have achieved your goal at all costs!
Mastering Our Own Selves to Master Our Destiny
Have you ever found yourself in the room with someone who doesn’t seem to realize that they are overstepping boundaries and generally just making other people around them feel uncomfortable? Have you ever wondered during such times whether or not you yourself might come across as one of these types of people?
The sad fact of the matter is that many of us are oblivious to our own faults and social faux pas, and because humans are social animals this can sometimes get seriously in the way of our success. Learning how to communicate effectively in the ways that help others feel at ease around us is a skill that we can develop over time.
The first thing we need to do is to feel confident.
When we are not confident in ourselves and our opinions, it shows. Other people can tell when we are trying too hard, and that becomes unappealing and a little bit embarrassing to them. If you want to master your destiny and communicate in an authentic way, then you need to realize that you are a capable and competent person with your own plethora of strengths.
Here is a little secret: you don’t need to impress anybody. You are simply there to share ideas and try to have a good time doing it. Whether people agree with you or not isn’t the end of the world; ideas and opinions are just that. It is fact that is indisputable, and if you find yourself bickering about facts, as long as you are doing so in a respectful way, then chances are high that you are garnering respect while doing so.
The next thing you can do to communicate authentically is probably so simple that it might sound stupid. Think before you open your mouth. You have probably heard this all your life, but it couldn’t be more true than it is in the world of achieving goals and networking.
You do not want to go off half-cocked and make a fool of yourself in front of someone who may remember you as a hothead later on down the line when it could truly matter.
Instead of blurting out all of your thoughts and opinions, learn to listen and make mental notes to look into ideas that challenge your own. It is always good to be open-minded to new perspectives, so give it a shot!
Last but not least, learn how to concede. If we are proven wrong, many of us are insecure and will hold tightly to an idea or opinion even. Don’t let yourself be that guy.
Instead, learn how to listen to opposing perspectives and give everybody the impression that you are going to respect them no matter what they think or believe, even if that happens to differ from your own personal thoughts and opinions.
Then all that is left from there is to go after what we truly want with no apologies once we have mastered ourselves in the art of communication! Only then can we be true masters of our destiny!